Make a list of lessons learned from this - metanoia has its roots in living mindfully.
The first thing is in listening to others and and not listening to him directly. That you can apologise for. The second thing is that his feelings and behaviour belong to him. If he is rude and obnoxious, such that you break up with him, then while there may be reasons, then he does need to share them. "I'm sorry you felt unable to tell me about your sister, can we talk?" would be something else for a note. The third thing is that religious stuff matters to you, and people look down all sorts of places in their teens, some better than others.
Let him cool off, jot him a note, leave it somewhere only he will see it. Use your writing skills - keep it to about 10 lines, or he won't read it.
These are mistakes people make all their lives, you're not the first, but you do get chance to learn from it, and live differently.
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Date: 2009-03-06 10:17 pm (UTC)From:The first thing is in listening to others and and not listening to him directly. That you can apologise for.
The second thing is that his feelings and behaviour belong to him. If he is rude and obnoxious, such that you break up with him, then while there may be reasons, then he does need to share them. "I'm sorry you felt unable to tell me about your sister, can we talk?" would be something else for a note.
The third thing is that religious stuff matters to you, and people look down all sorts of places in their teens, some better than others.
Let him cool off, jot him a note, leave it somewhere only he will see it. Use your writing skills - keep it to about 10 lines, or he won't read it.
These are mistakes people make all their lives, you're not the first, but you do get chance to learn from it, and live differently.